Divorce almost always represents a painful, stressful and challenging time of life. When children are involved, the situation only gets more complicated for all concerned. Fortunately, for the majority of divorcing families, the immediate disruption and upset of this difficult life transition tends to dissipate within six months to one year of a marital break-up. For these families, a new sense of "normal" is established and life goes on....

On the other hand, for a growing number of divorcing families, unfortunately, this is not the case. In these families, conflict, hostility and acrimony seem to continue without a break. In fact, children often find themselves at the center of their parents' dispute where they are caught in a "tug-of-war" between two people they love. It is these situations that provide fertile ground for aliention to develop.

If your children are suddenly starting to reject you or acting "uncharacteristically" hostile toward you, AND if your ex-spouse seems to be interfering with the warm and loving relationship you once had with them, then it is quite possible that an alienating process is already underway.

If on the other hand, you have already figured out that your children are being deliberately and without cause alienated from you, then you know first-hand how destructive and painful this has been for your children to endure. Whatever your situation, you need information and strategies about how to cope with this extremely malicious and potentially dangerous form of child abuse.

Whichever of the above two situations you find yourself in, please understand that these behaviors are NOT normal. They must be dealt with quickly and aggressively because they will continue to get worse.

The Alienating Process WILL NOT Stop on Its Own:
Something Has to be Done to Make it Stop!

Because most parents faced with the P.A.S. have never heard of it or experienced it before, they often naturally react by wanting to "wait it out" - hoping it will get better on its own. This is the absolutely worst thing any parent can do. P.A.S. does not get better on its own and invariably, time is always on the side of the alienating parent.

One of the greatest obstacles to effectively dealing with P.A.S. is appropriately informing those who have direct involvement with divorcing families, children and the administration of the law. These include: attorneys, judges, guardians ad litem, custody evaluators, mediators, psychologists, family therapists, Child Protective Services, physicians, teachers and police. The reality is what little information may be currently available to these authorities is often clouded by misinformation. Getting reliable information about P.A.S. into the hands of those who are the gatekeepers and decision makers for children is the first step to ensuring their rights to maintain a relationship with both parents are protected.

If you are a parent who is being alienated from their children, then you have come to the right place to begin the process of educating yourself. There are tremendous resources on the Interet. This website will point you in the right direction.

An excellent way to begin is by reading the free articles on this site and checking out the P.A.S. and divorce resources linked to it. Also CLICK HERE for another informative article on parental alienation syndrome.

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